Despite the two of us being based in Victoria, and within the same circle, I have only been able to touch base with Adam Quiney pretty recently. He is the kind of guy that I can talk to for hours, no beer needed.
In his words, he is an “obsessive perfectionist and high performer” who used to work as a project manager and lawyer. He is currently working as an executive coach where he teaches people how to live a life without compromise while creating the impact they want to.
On this episode, we talked about the problem with productivity, fostering relationships, books, among others. Some of the areas we also touched on includes:
- How personal transformations involve self-awareness, feelings of disconnection or a pain point as the trigger.
- The idea of the noble sacrifice brought about by caring too much or wanting to make a difference which can create disappointment, anxiety or heartbreak.
- The ‘narrative’ we were made to believe that building relationships take time contradicting the concept of efficiency, and how to practice deepening intimacy congruent to productivity.
- How the pursuit of productivity becomes a hindrance to our lives through too much dependence, and an anecdote on how this fixation can even ruin our relationships.
- Steps on fixing this challenge by slowing down, gaining awareness on what efficiency is costing us, and facing the fear of what will happen if we’re not efficient.
- A story highlighting the importance of taking ownership, and the role the ego plays in this conundrum.
- His top picks when it comes to books which helped him understand human nature, and in turn help others.
- The importance of balancing one’s boundaries and why he likened traversing life to riding a bike.
- His insights on the work-life balance vs. work-life integration debacle, and what he thinks is a more plausible concept to aim for.
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Thanks for tuning in! Until next time, remember to stop guessing…and start going.
